The key to success in fundraising: Know yourself, and be yourself
Special to
Philanthropy Journal
Andrea
Kihlstedt
When
it comes to raising money from individual donors, the advice I find myself giving
over and over again comes down to a simple formula: Stop trying to match your personality to your
prospect's. Instead of trying to act like someone else – which never really
works – craft your donor presentations so they reflect your unique strengths.
But
how do you do that? After more than 40 years in the nonprofit sector and as a
student of human behavior, I've learned that that are four different Asking
Styles that are a natural outgrowth of four basic facets of people's
personalities. Learn your own Asking Style and you're on your way to becoming a
successful fundraiser – without having to feel like you're faking your way
through donor interactions.
Take
me for example. I’m an extrovert and naturally drawn to
people. I seldom shrink from a one-on-one or even a group encounter; in fact, I
enjoy the back and forth of a good discussion and the chance to try on
different ideas. I actually find out what I think through conversations! I’m
not inclined to deep research, and would much rather explore ideas than get
hooked on the facts – from my perspective facts are meant to back up ideas, not
to spark them. This is just who I am – an intuitive extrovert. In the Asking
Styles lexicon, I’m a Go-Getter.
But my style might not work for you. In
fact, you may be shocked – even horrified! – to think that someone would
propose ideas before doing careful research to see what the data suggests. Does
the very thought of having a free-flowing conversation or talking to a donor
without a plan of attack make you anxious? At the same time, you may be a
still-rivers-run-deep kind of person. Where I'm gregarious and love personal
interactions, you may be more comfortable writing an email than working with
people in person, or even picking up the phone.
Regardless of whether you're intuitive
or analytical, an extrovert an introvert, don't worry! Whatever your natural
temperament, you can ask for gifts in the way that suits you best. If you know
your Asking Style, you’ll be more comfortable asking for gifts. And more the more
comfortable you are, the more effective you’re likely to be.
The Four Asking Styles
The Asking Styles system is simple and
easy to remember; based on two axes, the system sorts people into four primary
styles.
Start with the vertical axis. Are you
an extrovert or an introvert – are you energized by interacting with others, or
do you need alone time to charge your inner batteries?
Then add the horizontal axis. Are you
intuitive – a deductive thinker who comes up with ideas and then examines the
facts? Or are you analytical – an inductive thinker who does research before
shaping your ideas?
Combine these two axes to find the four
Asking Styles: Rainmaker, Go-Getter, Kindred Spirit and Mission
Controller. Each style is quite distinct, and each brings different
strengths to the fundraising table. Knowing your own Asking Style will help you
understand the approaches that are the most comfortable and effective for you.
If you find yourself thinking you have
a foot in more than one Asking Style, don't worry; Asking Styles are a
continuum, not a set of absolutes. For example, your primary style may be Mission Controller (analytic introvert)
but you may also share characteristics of a Kindred
Spirit or a Rainmaker. Take a
look at the simple descriptions below and see which of the styles seem to best
describe you.
Rainmaker
|
Go-Getter
|
Kindred Spirit
|
Mission Controller
|
Systematic
|
Flexible
|
Flexible
|
Methodical
|
Strategic
|
Responsive
|
Responsive
|
Systematic
|
Competitive
|
Engaging
|
Sensitive
|
Responsible
|
Driving
|
Creative
|
Reserved
|
Observant
|
Friendly
|
Big picture
|
Conflict averse
|
Detail oriented
|
Knowing the different Asking Styles –
and knowing which one most closely describes your personality – will give you a
clearer sense of everything from deciding which prospects are best for you to
choosing how to prepare your ask, conduct the solicitation and even follow up
with the donor.
In fact, after working with this
approach for several years – and writing a book about it – I've found that
consciously employing Asking Styles can have a positive impact on virtually all
aspects of the fundraising process, from choosing solicitation teams to pairing
fundraisers with donors. The key here truly is knowing and being yourself.
Andrea Kihlstedt has served the nonprofit sector for more
than 40 years as a fundraiser, consultant, teacher, and speaker. In her third
book, Asking
Styles – Harness Your Personal Fundraising Power, Kihlstedt
describes how anyone can use the fundamental aspects of their authentic
personality to become highly effective fundraisers.
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